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50+ Best Letters You Can Write to Someone You Love but Can’t Be With

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Heartfelt Letter To Someone You Can’t Be With Ever

We can’t always be with everybody we want to be with; even though it hurts, we still have to let go of them. Below are the best letters you can write to someone you love but can’t be with.

  1. I am writing this letter to you, the man I love but can’t have. I know you are reading this right now and wondering why the hell I am doing this. Let me just say that it’s not because of you; it’s because of me.
  2. I want you to know that I’m sorry for everything in our relationship. It was never meant to be, but sometimes we can’t control our feelings no matter how hard we try to fight them.
  3. I also want you to know that if given a chance, I would do everything I can to keep our relationship going, even though I know it’s impossible. But maybe someday when we are old and gray, like grandfather and grandmother sitting on the porch on a hot summer day drinking lemonade from a mason jar while watching the kids play ball in the street, maybe then it will hit us both at once that we should have stayed together instead of staying apart? Maybe we will regret all those lost years when we could have been together instead of being apart. Maybe we will want each other back as much as we do now. Maybe then it will be too late?
  4. Dear (insert name here), I don’t know if you’ll ever read this letter, but I have to write it anyway. I’m sorry. I’m so sorry that I fell in love with you and all the feelings that come with it. You don’t know me, but I think you’re amazing. You’re smart, funny, and kind. But most importantly, you’re beautiful inside and out. You are everything I’ve ever wanted in a man, but there’s one problem: we live thousands of miles apart and can never be together. I wish we could meet in person and fall madly in love, but that’s not possible right now because of distance and circumstances beyond our control. So this will have to do for now: a letter full of my love for you from afar. I know our relationship is doomed from the start; we’re married to other people we love very much but not as much as each other! That’s why we can’t be together — because neither of us wants to hurt anyone by leaving our spouses for the other — even though the pain kills us both every day we spend apart.
  5. Dear _______, You are the reason I wake up every morning. You are the reason I breathe. You are the reason I live. I’ve never been in love or felt this way about anyone else. You mean everything to me, and my whole world falls apart when you’re not around.
  6. We’ve been through so much together and overcome so many obstacles, but there is one thing holding us back from being together – distance. If only things were different and we could be together, then maybe we could make this work, but they’re not, and we can’t. I don’t want to lose you because it feels like my heart will break into a million pieces if I do, but at the same time, I don’t want to hold onto something that will only cause me more pain in the future because that’s what it feels like; like holding on to broken glass or trying to breathe underwater – impossible and painful with no reward at all for your efforts other than making yourself bleed even more than you already have been by choosing to be here with me in the first place instead of where you belong with her or him or whoever makes
  7. My dearest, I know you are reading this, and I am sorry for being so blunt. But I have to say this, so here it goes. I love you, but I can’t be with you. The reason is that we are not meant to be together. You know that, and so do I.
  8. I want to say that it is not your fault and that I am very happy with how things turned out. It was fun while it lasted, but now it is time to move on with our lives.
  9. I will always cherish the memories we created together and how much fun we had until we parted ways last month. It was a pleasure being around you and getting to know you deeper than most people get to know each other after knowing them for just a few weeks or months. However, even then, it still wasn’t enough for me because there is always more about someone else that you would like to learn about them than what meets the eye when first meeting them in person or online through social media sites like Facebook or Twitter (which I still love using even though they are dying out these days).
  10. My dear love, I wake up every day and wish I could be with you, but I am reminded that we are far apart. It’s hard not to think of you all the time. It’s hard not to dream about us being together.
  11. I know that I’m not ready for a relationship. You don’t want me to be with anyone else until we can be together, and it makes sense, but it also makes me feel like I’m tied down and unable to live my life as freely as I should be. I want to see and date other people because it keeps me from constantly thinking of you. Still, at the same time, I don’t want this distance between us at all because I know how much it hurts both of us when we have to go months without seeing each other or talking on the phone or even sending each other messages online. The fact is that we’re too young for this type of relationship right now, anyway. We’re only 18 years old, and even though we’ve been together for over a year now, we still don’t know what type of person we are yet — ourselves included. We still haven’t lived enough life yet.
  12. Dear [the man I love but can’t have], I’m sorry I hurt you. I’m sorry I was selfish and made you feel like you were an option when you were my everything. I’m sorry for not being able to tell you how much I loved you because now it would just be a lie. I want to say it doesn’t matter that we couldn’t be together, but it does. It matters so much that sometimes I think about what our life could have been like, and I cry to sleep. I wish things could have been different, but at the same time, I know they couldn’t have been any better than they were with you. You made me feel like no one else ever had or will ever have. You made me feel beautiful and confident, even when I was ugly on the inside. And even though we aren’t together anymore, don’t think for one second that my love has faded away or died out completely because it hasn’t.
  13. Dear the man I love but can’t have, If you’re reading this, then know I’m doing so from afar. I suppose that makes me a voyeur, but I don’t think it’s too far from the truth. You see, there are times when I watch you from afar and feel like I know you–not just as a lover or partner, but as a friend.
  14. I don’t know if this makes sense to you, but sometimes it feels like we’re having a conversation without saying anything. It’s crazy to me because I’ve felt like we were strangers who didn’t speak the same language for so long.
  15. I want to say that it’s been hard for me. And maybe it has been at times, but mostly it hasn’t been hard. That’s because every time we’ve been together has been worth it–even though they were short-lived moments in time.
  16. I’ve never told anyone this before, but sometimes when you look at me with those eyes of yours, I feel like we’re sharing more than just words or thoughts or ideas…sometimes it feels like we’re sharing our souls with each other and there’s nothing left between us except love and acceptance and trust and
  17. I’m sorry for loving you when it was wrong of me to do so. I’m sorry for thinking that what we had was something more than just a fleeting moment in time.
  18. I’m sorry for not being able to stop myself from falling in love with you, even though I knew it was wrong.
  19. I’m sorry for making you feel like you were my only hope of happiness, even though we both knew that wasn’t true. I’m sorry for making you feel like I could never be happy without you in my life, even though that wasn’t true either.
  20. I wish there was some way I could take back everything I’ve ever said or done that made you think otherwise, but there isn’t. All that’s left is this letter — an apology to someone who probably doesn’t even care anymore if he ever read it or not — and a broken heart because of the fact that no matter how much time passes between now and then, there will never be another man like him.
  21. Dear, I love you and know that deep down inside, you love me too. But I can’t do this anymore. I’m sorry for everything. You may not know this, but I’ve been in love with you for a long time. You have no idea how much it hurts to see you with another girl, especially knowing that she’s not good enough for you.
  22. She doesn’t deserve an amazing guy like you, nor do I. We both need someone better than ourselves, and we’ll never find that person because we’re holding onto each other so tightly that it’s impossible to let go. I’m sorry if this sounds selfish or selfish at all, but I think it’s best if we break up now before things get any worse.
  23. Dear [Name], I’m writing this letter because I can’t tell you how I feel in person. I don’t know if you’ll ever read this, but if you do, please know that I love you more than anything else.
  24. I love your smile; it lights up your face and makes me feel like the luckiest girl alive. Your laugh is contagious, making me happy just to hear it. You have been my best friend for as long as I can remember, and I am so thankful for that. You are amazing at everything you do. You are an amazing dad, husband, and son-in-law. You are also an amazing uncle! I can’t wait until our kids grow up so they can be best friends with your kids too!
  25. You are one of the most genuine people I know, and even though we’ve grown apart over the past few years, I still admire that about you more than anything else because there aren’t many people out there who are like that anymore (at least not in my life). It’s one of those things that made me fall for you in the first place…and now it’s one of those things that keeps me going back for more every time we’re together (even though
  26. I know this is hard for you to understand, but the fact that we can never be together is tearing me apart. I want nothing more than to be with you and spend every minute of my life with you, but I know that’s not possible.
  27. I’m sorry that I’ve caused you so much pain. It kills me every time I see how much it hurts you when we’re apart or even in the same room. Please know that I only want what’s best for you and if this means that it’s better for us to be apart, then so be it.
  28. I’m sorry you feel like this isn’t what’s best for you because it is! You deserve someone who will love you no matter what happens in life and always has your back no matter what situation arises. You deserve someone who will give up everything just to make sure their partner is happy, even if that means doing something they hate or don’t want to do just because it makes them happy, knowing they made them smile! Because that’s what true love means! It’s not about how much money you have or how great
  29. We are both in a very complicated place in our lives. I’m happy with my job, but it doesn’t pay well enough to support us. You’re a successful entrepreneur, but you don’t get paid until your business takes off. You want to move out of your parent’s basement and into your own place, but you don’t have any savings. And I want to go back to school, but I can’t afford it right now either.
  30. So here we are, two people who want different things at different times. And while this is frustrating sometimes, it makes life interesting and fun because we never know what will happen next or how things will play out between us. That’s why I love being with you — there’s always something new around the corner! But being with someone who isn’t ready for commitment can be hard too. It makes me feel insecure and anxious about what’s happening inside my head all the time — am I good enough? Does he still like me? What if he finds someone else who wants what he wants right now? Do they have less baggage than me?
  31. Dear (name), I know we’re just friends, but I must tell you that I love you. I’ve loved you since the moment we met, and I’ve tried so hard to deny it, but I can’t anymore. You are the most amazing person I’ve ever known, and a part of me wishes that things could be different between us. But no matter how much I wish for it, nothing will ever change – so I’ll just keep wishing for that miracle until it happens.
  32. I’m sorry for hurting you, but sometimes it’s better to hurt someone than to let them hurt themselves. You’re a beautiful soul who deserves someone who will appreciate all of your qualities – who will see past all of your imperfections and love every part of you – even the ones we both know are there.
  33. You deserve someone who will make sure they’ll be there whenever you need them – even when they don’t want to be there at all because they just want to do whatever they want without thinking about anyone else’s feelings or needs… except maybe theirs! You deserve someone who will put everything aside just so they can spend time with you… no matter how busy they may seem at
  34. Dear _______, I am writing this letter to you because I need to let you know that I will never be able to love you the way you deserve. You deserve someone who can give you their all. Someone who doesn’t have many other things going on in their life. Someone who can give 100% of themselves to you and only you. But that person is not me. I’m sorry if this hurts you, but it’s the truth.
  35. I’ve tried hard to make this work, but I can’t do it anymore. I don’t want to keep stringing you when I know deep down that it won’t ever work out between us. And even though it will probably break your heart, it would be better for both of us if we just went our separate ways instead of continuing on like this forever, wasting each other’s time with false hope and broken promises.
  36. Dear ____, I am writing this letter to you in hopes that it will make you see my feelings for you. I have wanted to tell you these things for a while now, but I didn’t know how or when to do it. So here I am, writing an open letter that will be sent out soon.
  37. I know we’ve been friends for a long time, and even though we’ve never dated, I feel like we are more than just friends. You are such an important part of my life, and I don’t know what I would do without you. You make me laugh when I’m sad, help me with homework when I’m stressed out, and, most importantly, you’re there for me when no one else is around. You are such an amazing friend and person overall!
  38. It may seem weird for me to be telling you these things since we’re not dating or anything like that, but I wanted to let you know how much you mean to me so that maybe one day you’ll realize that maybe we should try dating. Who knows? Maybe someday down the road…
  39. I want to thank you for the wonderful memories we’ve shared. It’s been a great ride. You gave me happiness and joy but also pain and heartache. I know it’s not your fault that you can’t be with me, but I can’t help feeling like it is. You were the one that chose not to be with me, and now I’m left with nothing but broken dreams and shattered hopes.
  40. If only things were different and we were different people in a different places and time, then maybe we could have made it work. But we’re not, and we don’t live in a fairy tale world where happily ever afters exist without any consequences or repercussions from our actions. We are real-life people who have to deal with real-life problems that come with being in love with someone who doesn’t love us back because he has someone he loves more than anything else in this world (including us).
  41. I know you think what you’re doing is best for us. Still, I disagree wholeheartedly because what you’re doing hurts both of us more than anyone else could ever hurt either one of us individually by themselves combined into one person because they would never.
  42. Dear Sir, I am writing to you hoping that you will understand why I must leave. The truth is that I cannot stay here any longer. You are a great man, and I know that you will succeed in whatever you do. But I am not the woman for you.
  43. I am sorry if this upsets you, but I must be honest with myself and you. I love this life, but it does not suit me in every way. It is not what I want from life, nor what I want from this relationship.
  44. I need more than just a successful career; I also want a family — something we would never have together as long as we stay together. We are so different, and while this may seem like an obvious conclusion to draw from our situation, it has taken me some time to realize fully and accept it.
  45. I wish only good things for you, Sir — please do not think that my decision was made lightly or hastily or without thought for your feelings on the matter (though perhaps my actions did not reflect this). I hope that one day we can meet again as friends who share memories of happier times than those we have shared together thus far; and if not, then at least.
  46. Dear man, I love you; I’m writing this letter because I have to. I don’t have a choice. It’s something that has been in my heart for a long time now, and I feel like it’s time to put it into action.
  47. I want to tell you how much you mean to me and how much you’ve changed my life for the better. You’re a great friend, lover, and coworker and I would be lost without you in my life.
  48. I have always been attracted to you since we first met at that party when we were both drunk out of our minds and ended up making out. Since then, we’ve had many good times together – whether it was drinking beer in your apartment or going out to dinner with friends – but lately, it feels like things have changed between us, and that makes me sad beyond belief because I don’t want things to end this way. It’s not fair for either of us if things end up going downhill because we deserve so much better!
  49. I love you with all of my heart. I love you more than I love myself. I would do anything for you, and that includes letting you go.
  50. I know you don’t feel the same about me as I do about you. You may not even like me at all. That’s okay. It doesn’t change how I feel about you or how much it hurts me to see you with someone else.

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Heartfelt Letter To Someone You Can’t Be With Ever

  1. Hi [name], It’s unbelievable that I’m writing this. I have no idea where to begin or what to say. I’ll probably jump right in and see what happens. Without a doubt, you are the best person I know. You always keep your word and have a pure heart. Everyone can always count on you to be there when they need you, especially when I do. You’ve always been my pillar of support and the only person who gives me hope for the future. That hasn’t changed even though we aren’t together anymore. It was painful to leave you, but it was even harder knowing that we could have created something special together if things had been different and our timing had been right. Whenever something goes wrong in my life, you’re still there for me, even if it’s just a simple text saying, “Hey.” However, things didn’t work out that way, and now we are hundreds of miles apart with no chance of ever reuniting. When we communicate by phone, text, or facetime, I continue to sense your affection for me.
  2. Hey there, I believe that you are unaware of my love and gratitude for you. One of the best individuals I know is you, and I believe that if we worked together, we could create something special. But it’s okay that we’re not together right now. I am aware that our connection is challenging, but it is worthwhile. More people who share your level of concern for others and desire to improve the world are needed. Your uncommon attributes of intelligence, empathy and sensitivity cause me to love you more and more every day. I hope we can reunite soon, but until then, know that you will always have a special place in my heart.
  3. Dear Honey, I know you’re struggling, but I want you to know that you can count on me. Even though we’re no longer together, you’ve taught me a lot and guided me through some of the most trying periods in my life. You still matter to me. I have no idea what is going on with us right now, but if there is anything I can do to assist bring us back to where we were or even better than before, please let me know what it is. I would want nothing more than for things to be normal between us once more.
  4. Hi [name], I’m sorry I have to be away from you. Although it’s killing me, I don’t believe it will be successful. But I want you to know how much I cherish you. Although we can’t be together anymore, please know that I’ll always be here for you since you’re a wonderful person. Let me know if you need anything at all.
  5. I may have difficulty writing this essay, but I will try. I am aware that our relationship is over. And while I am aware that the cause for this is something you feel strongly about and that you are correct in your reasoning, I nonetheless believe that our separation was a mistake. Every day that goes by, I think and miss you. I wish things were different and we could make this work again. Maybe things will change one day. But for the time being, we can’t even discuss it without breaking out in a major argument. I want you to know how much I enjoy having you around, how much I miss you, and how sorry I am for everything that has been happening lately.
  6. Hello, [name] I know I’m the last person you want to hear from right now, but I just wanted to let you know that I’m still thinking of you. We shouldn’t have to be apart, and I wish things could be different. But perhaps that will be achievable shortly. I’ve been reflecting on the past and what may have happened if our circumstances had been different. I’m glad since I also spend time contemplating our future together. I hope all is well with you. Please let me know if there is anything I can do to help you.
  7. Hi [name], I am aware of your ongoing pain and the fact that it will take some time for you to heal. I want you to know that I am here for you and will continue to be. Nothing that transpires between us can ever alter my feelings for you. There is still so much love in my heart for you even if we aren’t together anymore. I’ve been thinking about you a lot recently. If this is meant to be, I hope we can talk again sometime and figure out how to make it work.
  8. Hi [name], I cherish you. I am incredibly appreciative of the time we have shared together and everything we have experienced. You are such a crucial component of my life, and I hope that despite our distance, our relationship can endure. Every day I think about you, and it hurts me so much that I can’t see you or communicate with you as often as I would like. Please be assured that I will always cherish our interactions while time is finite and valuable.
  9. Good day. I want to let you know that even though we can’t be together, I do think about you. We haven’t seen each other in a while, and I miss how your eyes light up when you laugh. You always knew how to cheer me up when times were bad, and I’m sure you still do. Wherever life takes you next, I hope this letter finds you strong and content.
  10. Hi [name], Wherever you are, I hope it’s a location where you feel secure and guarded. Since we haven’t spoken in a while, I know it can be difficult to feel someone cares about us, especially when we can’t see them. However, I want to assure you that I have been thinking of you. I hope everything is going smoothly for you. If there is anything I can do to help, kindly let me know. Good luck.
  11. I wish I could see you again, baby. Even though I am aware that it is impossible, I find myself thinking about you often. I vividly recall each and every second of our time together, including our first kiss on the sand and your smile as we sat on the porch swing. It would be wonderful if we could get back to how things were, but I know that’s not how life works. Everything was perfect between us. I hope everything is going well for you at the moment. If there is anything, I can do to make things easier for you, do let me know.
  12. Hi [name], I am sorry; I am aware of your rage. I should have informed you that I felt a certain way about you, but I didn’t want to jeopardize our friendship. The idea of not being able to chat to you every day or go on excursions with you was too painful for me to stomach. Even though we are unable to be together, differences still exist. You have improved me more than I could have ever dreamed before we met, and you have changed my life in so many ways. I still adore you with all of my heart and soul, despite the fact that we aren’t together anymore. Sincerely yours, always.
  13. Hello [name] Even though I am aware that we aren’t together anymore, I still miss you every day and have no one else with whom to discuss the topics we used to discuss. I want to express my gratitude for being such a terrific friend throughout everything and for always standing up for me when no one else did. Through it all, you were my rock, and now that we’re apart, I feel like a part of me is missing. I’ll be here for you no matter what, even though we’re no longer together. Please let me know if you ever need anything. I’ll always love you, [name].
  14. Hi [name], Because I know we can’t be together, I’m writing you this letter to express how much you mean to me. I’ve never met somebody as amazing as you, and I wish things were different. I hope we can communicate again sometime since you’ve had an effect on me that will last a lifetime.
  15. Good day, For all I’ve done wrong, I apologize. However, I want you to know that no matter what, there will always be a part of me that loves you and wants to spend time with you. I know you don’t want to be in a relationship with me anymore, and I understand why. Whether we communicate via text or phone, I’ll always be here for you . Being your buddy means more to me than anything else in this world, so I hope we can stay friends even if we aren’t together anymore. Okay?.
  16. Hi [name], I miss your grin and the way your hair looks after being washed. I miss the way you make me feel while we’re together and the sound of your laughter. The fact is, despite everything that has occurred between us, I have never stopped loving you. I must thus apologize for all the pain I have caused you over the previous 12 months. Even though I realize it’s too late for us to make amends, we can still remain friends or make an effort to do so. I don’t want to lose our history because of some careless mistakes I made when we have so much history together. If there’s any chance that our friendship may survive this catastrophe, just let me know.
  17. Good day, I miss you. I constantly wish we could be together and think of you often. I’m sorry that at this time, we can’t be together. We will eventually, I’m positive. I know it’s hard to imagine, but I adore you above all else. I want nothing more than for us to spend the rest of our lives together because you are my closest friend and soul mate. Please understand that even though we are now apart, I am constantly thinking of you.
  18. Hey there, Despite the fact that we aren’t together anymore, I still care about you and want you to know that. Whatever happens, nothing will alter the special place you have in my life. I’ve never been happier than I was when I was with you, and I’ll always value the memories we shared. The positive times have molded me into the person I am today—a better version of myself. I’m eager to find out what the future has in store for us.
  19. Hello, sweetheart, it’s been a while since our last conversation. I want you to know that everything was my fault. I am aware that you are with someone else and that I cannot change that. You should be aware that just because things haven’t gone as planned doesn’t mean that our friendship is any less important, special, or deserving of defending. I’ll always be there for you if you need me, but I won’t pressure you into doing anything. Both you and I are too smart for that. You deserve love and happiness, whether it comes from someone else or from yourself. Even if we never meet, that’s fine; at least one of us will travel there eventually. I’m crossing my fingers that you receive this letter before it’s too late.

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